Guy: “My girlfriend won’t submit to me!”
Me: “Good for her.”
Ephesians 5:24 says, “As the church submits to Christ, so you WIVES ((not “girlfriends”)) should submit to your HUSBANDS ((not “boyfriends”)) in everything.”
In a general sense, all born-again Christians should mutually submit to one another (Ephesians 5:21).
But marital submission is reserved for HUSBANDS ONLY. Not for unmarried men and women who are just “talking” “kicking it” “seeing each other” or “dating.”
Telling a woman that you want to marry her “someday” doesn’t mean that you are now deserving of the type of submission that is reserved for a husband.
Just as a woman who is not your wife shouldn’t have sex with you because you aren’t her husband, a woman who is not your wife shouldn’t submit to you “as unto the Lord” (Ephesians 5:22) because you aren’t her husband.
There is an order to things: First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes sex and submission. Say it with me, “Sex and submission come AFTER marriage.”
I’m trying to understand why there are so many single and unmarried men debating, arguing, fussing, and quarreling with women that they aren’t married to about submission and commanding them to submit. What are ya’ll doing?
It is not a man’s responsibility to force, coerce, or pressure a woman to submit to him, especially a woman that he isn’t married to. Jesus referred to this dominating behavior as “exercising authority” over someone (Matthew 20:25-28). Domination is forbid among Christians.
You are out of pocket if you are trying to convince a woman who isn’t your WIFE to submit to you.
You are out of pocket if you accuse a woman of being “rebellious” a “Jezebel” or “insubmissive” for telling you NO because you aren’t her husband. She’s right. You’re wrong.
You are out of pocket if you are using the Bible to extract marriage perks from a woman that you aren’t married to.
Dear single/unmarried men: Stop taking authority over women and twisting Scriptures that do not apply to you.
By all means love one another, get to know one another deeply, treat one another with respect and dignity, and build a strong friendship. But sex and marital submission are for marriage ONLY.